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Posted on March 1st, 2003

I was thinking about it more today, and I dug up some quotes that I’ve heard and I thought that I’d share them:

In “Bodies”, Billy Corgan sings, repeatedly, that “Love is suicide.” Now all art is open to interpretation, and I think he’s right, in a manner of speaking. After all, once someone is in love (and by this, I mean true love, if such a thing exists), they are completely changed. So, symbolically, the person they were before love is no longer. Then, there is the event of heartbreak, where, again, a person becomes radically different. Everything is gloomy, hopeless, and depressing; another suicide of sorts.

Not long after he wrote this song, Corgan said something quite profound about love, and life in general: “Happiness and love… for me they’re inseparably joined with loss and death. Black and white are the opposite ends of the scale but they can’t be separated, they’re tied together in a strange way. Nothing lasts forever, nothing is eternal, everything is changing, fleeting, only for the moment, so everything is meant to fade, to break, to disappear, to frown or to fail. That’s life and I don’t want to dress it up and pretend it’s different than it really is.” As bad as it may sound, I have to admit that there is some truth in this, too.

Then there are the love songs that he wrote: Beautiful and Stand Inside Your Love being my favourites. It’s remarkable how someone can feel so radically different about love over time. Like Corgan, there are times when love really affects my mood; from extreme happiness, to helplessness, to angst, to sadness, to longing, to worriness, to confusion, to hate, to despair, to loneliness (not in any particular order, of course). Amazing how one emotion can affect a person’s life, huh? I once told my friend, Erica, that if there is anything that can make or break a guy’s life, it’s a girl. And she seemed rather surprised about this. I don’t know if girls feel the same way, but there are certainly times when it seems like they do. I guess it all comes with being interpersonal creatures.

I’m not sure why I’ve been thinking about love so much lately. It seems as though my unconscious has been trying to figure things out about it. I really hope that, one day, I will realize that there’s someone in my life that would be perfect for me. And, obviously, I hope that she’d feel the same way about me. Then we’ll live happily ever aft.. no… if only it were that simple. If there’s anything worthwhile in life, we have to be willing to work for it.

One Response to “Love”

  1. Anonymous Says:

    Regarding your journal entry: love, for me was not something planned, at all. I had never thought about it until I was engulfed in it. Even still, it’s not something I think about every day. I’m not sure where I’m going with this, but it seems that sometimes it’s better to let love find you rather than go out seeking it. If one goes out of their way to try and find love, sometimes it’s not the right kind. Don’t get me wrong though: once you find it, grasp it and hold on tight. But also, I would suggest to anyone to go along with normal life, and if loves stumbles upon you, then it’s probably the best kind.
    Finally, I have also come to the realization that love is, and MUST be communal. If only one loves but the other is neutral or opposed, then is it really true love? Can a single person love without another? Even God is a Trinity, consisting of 3 beings, one being the love between the other two. This leads me to believe that love must be experienced by 2 people and for each other, for it to be true love. As soon as one of those two falls out of love, there is no longer true love.

    I hope my thoughts were at least somewhat insightful to your thoughts in the journal.

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