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Posted on May 29th, 2006

I generally consider myself a patient person. There have been countless instances when I have endured uncomfortable situations for extended periods of time as things don’t progress in an expected manner. And most of the time, I’ll do so without showing any negative emotions.

In some cases, I get all bothered inside and get grumpy. This often happens when the wait has become unreasonable or if it is severely infringing on my comfort zone. And, usually, there isn’t really any escaping the situation unless I deal with it by myself (which isn’t always the best way to handle it).

Recently, I’ve been thinking about why I really get upset. I know that some people just have a tendency to be late. I know that some people just have a tendency to leave messes. I know that some people just have a tendency to be immature. Can’t I just accept that?

I suppose that, to a certain extent, I have to accept it. I mean, I can’t exactly change people to be punctual or tidy or mature. But I’m sure that I could do a lot more than just that. On the other hand, my freedoms are often restricted by some of the above circumstances, so I should do something in response to it. Like leave, or clean, or dismiss. Or blow a casket.

And about that last alternative, let me tell you, there sure are times when I wished that I didn’t think that I should be a nice guy. So does that make me impatient? πŸ™

5 Responses to “Patience”

  1. Tony Says:

    I’ve found that the best way to deal with this is by erecting mental safety nets around people whose behaviour is fairly predictable. If I know somebody is frequently late or unreliable then I simply lower my expectations of that person until they are no longer too high and then it doesn’t bother me any longer.

  2. hann Says:

    so guess what?!?!
    I have a job now. AND Craigers fixed my comp. Do you realize what those two things mean in the context of your life?
    It basically means that we can FINALLY go out for sushi because I have money. AND it means that I can read your journal again πŸ™‚

  3. Curtis Says:

    Game tomorrow night. Going to be so good. See you then.

  4. Sarah Kivell Says:

    Hmmm…I’ve been thinking about this lately…about responding to people who are doing something that I don’t like.

    Here’s where I think I need to learn to move towards:

    For example…when I’m driving, sometimes I’ll get irritated at the slow driver, the non-signaling driver, the last-minute-sneak-in-the-lane driver, the super-duper-fast-I-have-somewhere-to-be driver. I’ve learned to catch myself getting angry and choosing to have grace and patience thoughts and actions towards them.

    HOWEVER! I still find some error in this.

    I don’t think it’s good enough that I “get over” it, tolerating it or refrain from getting angry. I think there needs to be forgiveness. And I think true forgiveness is not just being okay with something happening, but recongizing that we are capable of the same things.

    What do you think?

  5. Justin Says:

    I agree that, sometimes, it is insufficient to “get over” it; that response is strictly one-sided and doesn’t really make a difference (save the avoidance of potential ulcers).

    There are times when I think that the offender should be confronted (for their own good). It’s almost immoral for us to allow people to continue to do bad things. Granted, it’s a pretty tall order to pull over a road-enraged driver and tell him or her that calming down would be a good idea. Especially if you value your life.

    And, certainly, we should remember that we, too, are flawed. That should affect how we treat others that offend us or test our patience; the Golden Rule says it all.

    PS I’m occasionally known to be one of those super-duper-fast-I-have-somewhere-to-be drivers πŸ˜‰

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